Chapter 1 Situational Practice
Transform your praise skills through hands-on practice scenarios
Practice Overview
Chapter 1 "Praise, The Magic of Trust" contains 3 core situational practices, designed to help parents shift from empty "You're awesome" to specific and effective praise methods.
Practice 1: Different Aspects of Praise
Practice Purpose
Help parents learn to use 5 specific sentences to replace empty "You're awesome" and achieve precise praise
🔧 Core Tools
5 Common Sentences More Useful Than "You're Awesome":
1. Specific Behavior Recognition
"You did particularly well in a certain area today, which really surprised me."
2. Opinion Acknowledgment
"What you said about [specific topic] makes a lot of sense. Please continue, I'm happy to listen."
3. Method Appreciation
"That's amazing! What method did you use to solve this problem?"
4. Thinking Inspiration
"How did you come up with this solution? That's really clever!"
5. Attitude Recognition
"Seeing you do this task carefully/diligently/attentively makes Mom/Dad very happy."
📝 Practice Steps
In the following situations, which of the 5 specific sentences above would you use to praise your child?
Scenario 1:
When you need to reinforce a positive behavior in your child
Scenario 2:
When you want to acknowledge your child's opinion or idea
Scenario 3:
When you want to praise your child's positive attitude toward doing things
Scenario 4:
When you want to encourage your child to think of their own solutions to problems
Scenario 5:
When you want to guide your child to summarize more experiences or explore more of their strengths
Reference Answers
Scenario 1: Reference Answer 1 - "You did particularly well in a certain area today, which really surprised me."
Scenario 2: Reference Answer 2 - "What you said about [specific topic] makes a lot of sense. Please continue, I'm happy to listen."
Scenario 3: Reference Answer 5 - "Seeing you do this task carefully/diligently/attentively makes Mom/Dad very happy."
Scenario 4: Reference Answer 3/1/5 - "That's amazing! What method did you use to solve this problem?"
Scenario 5: Reference Answer 4/2/1/5 - "How did you come up with this solution? That's really clever!"
💡 Practice Significance
- •Avoid empty praise
- •Improve the targeting and effectiveness of praise
- •Cultivate parents' specificity in observation and expression
Practice 2: Preparing for Effective Praise
Practice Purpose
Help parents identify situations where praise is inappropriate and develop awareness of correct praise
📝 Practice Steps
In the following situations, which do you think are NOT suitable for praising your child?
(1)
The child is being a bit slow, and you casually find a reason to praise them just to get them moving quickly.
(2)
The child's test scores aren't ideal, but during the final review period, they did a lot of practice, and several problems they couldn’t do before are now correct.
(3)
Your child performed better than your colleague's child in a parent-child activity, and you feel it gives you "face."
(4)
The child doesn’t like the color of the toy you chose for them, and you praise them as a good, obedient child just to get them to agree.
(5)
The teacher hopes the children will actively participate in class, but your child believes "you should think before raising your hand" and doesn’t necessarily want to be an active participant.
Reference Answers
(1), (3), (4) are not suitable for praise
🤔 Reflection Questions
In situations (2) and (5), if you want to give your child acknowledgment, how could you express it?
💡 Practice Significance
- •Identify the pitfalls of utilitarian praise
- •Cultivate awareness of sincere praise
- •Avoid formalistic praise
Practice 3: Making Praise Practical
Practice Purpose
Learn to use "3 Implementations" (implementing correct behavior, positive process, positive experience) for effective praise
🔧 Core Tools
3 Implementations of Praise:
1. Implement Correct Behavior
Use less comparison and evaluation
2. Implement Positive Process
Good process brings good results
3. Implement Positive Experience
Let the child do things happily
📝 Practice Steps
If you were to praise your child using "3 Implementations," how would you express it?
Case 1: Comparison-Type Praise
Original:
"You memorize English words faster than [Name], [Name]'s mom is so jealous!"
Reference Answer:
"I see you've taken lots of notes on vocabulary and even invented some little 'methods' for memorizing words. That's really impressive!"
• Implementation Point: Correct behavior (specifically describing the child's effort and methods)
Case 2: Result-Oriented Praise
Original:
"Another 100 points! You're awesome!"
Reference Answer:
"Child, this semester you've been completing your self-made study plan every day, and you didn’t give up when you encountered difficulties. Good grades are the best reward for your persistence!"
• Implementation Point: Positive process (focusing on effort and persistence)
Case 3: After Hardship Comes Sweetness-Type Praise
Original:
"Child, although practicing piano is hard, we must persist! You're the best!"
Reference Answer:
"At the birthday party that day, everyone really loved the song you played. It was so beautiful! You must have felt particularly accomplished when playing. You really chose right with piano!"
• Implementation Point: Positive experience (letting the child feel accomplishment and joy)
💡 Practice Significance
- •Learn to specify praise content
- •Focus on process rather than just results
- •Convey positive emotional experiences
Expected Practice Effects
📈 Quantitative Effects
5×
Behavior Promotion
8×
Relationship Improvement
10×
Pleasant Experience
🌟 Actual Effects
Correct praise practice can bring:
- •Visible improvement motivation in children
- •Instant warming of parent-child relationships
- •Pleasant mood for the whole family all day
- •Joy and satisfaction behind the hard work and fatigue of being parents
Practice Usage Guide
Practice Frequency
- •Daily Practice: Practice at least 1-2 specific sentence patterns daily
- •Regular Review: Review practice effects weekly
- •Continuous Optimization: Discuss with your child their preferred praise methods
Practice Suggestions
- 1.Progressive Learning: Start with the first practice and gradually master it
- 2.Combine with Reality: Choose real-life scenarios for practice
- 3.Record Feedback: Record your child's reactions and changes
- 4.Family Participation: Encourage family members to practice together
Precautions
- •Ensure praise comes from the heart, avoid formalism
- •Observe your child's genuine reactions and feelings
- •Adjust expression methods according to your child's age and personality
- •Maintain consistency and continuity
Related Tool Links
Supporting Tools:
- •Tool 1: Praise on Point (5 Efficient Sentence Patterns)
- •Tool 2: Qualified Praiser
- •Tool 3: Praise Effectiveness Assessment
- •Tool 4: 3 Implementations of Praise
- •Tool 5: Bundle "Good Feelings"
- •Tool 6: Character Mining 5 Questions
Extended Practices:
- •Finding meaning behind behavior
- •Reading biographical discussions
- •"Failure" event review
💝Core Philosophy
Praise is not a skill, but an expression of love.
When parents can speak with high quality, it can profoundly influence their child's personality development.