Tool 47 · Reflection · Free
Adapt Your Presence as They Grow
Your child's preferences for time together are changing.
Try this
“What kind of time together would feel good to you now?”
How to use it
For school-age children, shared activities and practical school support may fit. Teens may prefer greater privacy and less direct company. Ask rather than assuming the age band tells you their preference.
- Notice what kind of contact your child welcomes.
- Offer an accessible activity or practical support.
- Adjust how close or involved you are while keeping care available.
- Review the rhythm when needs or circumstances change.
What it can sound like
These are illustrative examples. Adjust the words to your family and your child's needs.
“Want me to join the game, help set it up, or watch?”
“Would you rather walk together or have me nearby while you work?”
Watch out for
Growing independence does not remove the need for support. Adapt for development, disability, stress, and the actual task.
If it doesn't fit this moment
Offer something smaller or at another time, and ask whether there is a practical barrier.
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Presence that fits now
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Reference reading
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