Decisions & limits · 5 free tools
Share Decisions and Set Limits
Be clear about what is fixed and give your child a real say in the parts they can decide.
Decisions & limits
Choose your role: bring an observation or work together; invite action or leave room to decide.
Bring an observation · invite action
Notice their interests
Offer an observation without assigning a future.
Work together · invite action
Build choices and agreements
Explain the boundary and negotiate real options.
Bring an invitation · leave room
Allow a different response
Make space for no, privacy, and disagreement.
Work together · leave room
Stay available
Offer support without steering the answer.
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Start with the help you need.
What can my child decide, and where do I set the limit?
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Explore Notice Interest Without Assigning a Future