Tool 16 · Phrase · Free
Reflect an Observation and a Possible Feeling
You notice a change and want to offer an opening without deciding what your child feels.
Try this
“You've gone quiet. I'm wondering if something was frustrating—or I may have that wrong.”
How to use it
Combine a neutral observation with a tentative feeling word. Your child gets to correct your interpretation or choose not to explain.
- Name an observable change without exaggerating.
- Offer a possible feeling as a guess.
- Leave room for correction, silence, or another time.
What it can sound like
These are illustrative examples. Adjust the words to your family and your child's needs.
“Your drawing tore. That might feel disappointing. Is that what happened?”
“You seem quieter after that message. Want company, or some space?”
Watch out for
Do not read an expression as proof of an emotion. Avoid 'I know you're angry' when they have not told you.
If it doesn't fit this moment
“Thanks for telling me. I guessed wrong.” Accept the correction.
Free template
Observe, wonder, check
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Reference reading
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