Tool 08 · Reflection · Free
Check Four Correction Traps
You feel an urge to lecture, criticize, or demand an immediate change.
Try this
“What am I trying to teach, and is this request reasonable?”
How to use it
Check for four common reasons a correction can drift away from teaching: venting, ending the discomfort, controlling the outcome, and expecting perfection.
- Venting: pause if the words mainly release your frustration.
- Escape: do not promise something you cannot sustain just to end the argument.
- Control: separate a necessary boundary from a personal preference.
- Perfection: check the task against your child's actual skills and circumstances.
What it can sound like
These are illustrative examples. Adjust the words to your family and your child's needs.
“The spilled paint needs cleaning. I'll show you where to start.”
“I'm annoyed, but I can discuss the unfinished chore without calling you lazy.”
Watch out for
Finding a trap is information for your next action, not a reason to shame yourself.
If it doesn't fit this moment
“I'm too worked up to explain this well. I'll come back after a break.”
Free template
What is driving my correction?
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Reference reading
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